Adult Amateur Dressage Shame: The School Master

contemplating-collectionDressage tends to attract a certain personality type. Of course this is a generalization but I am ignoring that fact because it does not suit my overall point. The bulk of dressage riders tend to be of a controlling ilk – perfectionists, hard workers, a little anal retentive. That is where the real irony of dressage comes to play – there is no such thing as perfection. We poor saps are going to forever be chasing a standard that is unattainable, and just when we feel we have mastered it, lo, there is another level that confounds us or another horse that throws a new set of issues our way. It is a cycle, but hopefully one that is shaped in a sort of upwardly sloping spiral.

Everyone who is attracted to dressage yearns for the beauty, the elegance and the harmony that one sees in the highest levels of competition (not necessarily Grand Prix – I am referring to any dressage test done truly well). The beauty of these rides is that the combination makes the test look so effortless. Horse and rider flow from one movement to another and the onlookers barely see a thing. With that appearance of effortlessness comes the idea that dressage is easy, an idea that is a dirty lie and not to be acknowledged. But truly, dressage is filled with converts from other disciplines who initially entered the ring with the idea that it would be somewhat similar to riding the flat spaces between fences or like trail in a little square box.

Also dressage is attractive to those new to riding altogether. A new dressage rider – let’s call her Annie – has had her children move out of the house and found herself with some disposable income. She literally has a little more time and money and remembers back to those summers she used to take riding lessons as a little girl. She loved them and thinks to herself, “Now is the perfect time to pick up that hobby once again.” Annie finds a local dressage trainer because she wants to ride english but does not want to jump. HAHA! YES, ENTER MY LAIR NEWEST VICTIM!, thinks the dressage gods. After a few months on old Dobbin the school horse Annie feels ready for a horse of her own. She can walk, trot and sometimes canter in both directions, so she has a handle on all her basics, right? Her trainer suggests that Annie purchase a schoolmaster that she might learn on, to teach her the movements. Annie agrees and out they go. After an exhaustive search and a substantial chunk of change the wonderful day arrives when Xavier, her silver palomino unicorn, steps off the trailer. He is beautiful! He is wonderful! And underneath that perfect white star on his forehead sits all the information to guide Annie to her top hat and tails.

Cut to a year or so later. Annie is despondent – she can barely hold the canter and Xavier is constantly changing leads. Annie secretly thinks he might be doing this on purpose. And his trot is so hard to sit! She feels like she has been beaten with a sock full of oranges after each lesson. A couple of weeks ago a friend came and filmed her lesson. With mounting (no pun intended) horror she watched herself on the camera screen bounce around like a sack of potatoes, arms in the air, looking less elegant and more like she was in the middle of some sort of seizure. Then her instructor gets on Xavier and around the ring they trot, like a centaur, beautiful, powerful, everything she aspires toward. Annie is frustrated, angry with herself and a bit embarrassed.

This, my friends, is the true beginnings of dressage shame. Annie begins to feel guilty about Xavier, limiting his full potential, not being worthy of such a beautiful silver palomino.

Now here is the essence of a schoolmaster – they do have knowledge of the movements stored away between their ears. They are the best way to learn to ride correctly within dressage, or any discipline for that matter, because when you put the correct aid on, there is a greater chance they will respond to what you are asking. I say greater chance because they are not machines. What also lies between their ears are all the bits that make them Xavier or Dobbin or your particular pony. There are some nice parts and some sneaky or lazy parts as well. Quickly they will discover the holes in your seat and take advantage of them. Even if they are kind hearted and would never do such a thing, you might be using an inappropriate part of your body to ask for a movement. And so you are not ever able to pick up the right lead canter even though you always get the left. Or can only get shoulder in one direction.

I often equate riding to dancing – you and a partner go through a coordinated series of movements indicating the upcoming steps using physical cues. But there are some huge differences – first we are going to take away the male dancer, the lead in almost all dances, and replace him with you. Great, that is still fine. The partner you are dancing with is very good and explains the steps to you, still sort of “sub leading”. Nope, sorry, that is not close enough to riding. So now we are going to make your partner a mute. She can no longer tell you what she is going to do or what is correct. She stands there blinking at you and occasionally swatting at flies. The knowledge is still in the female dancer’s head but she cannot communicate and YOU are the one leading the dance. So you grab her and attempt to waltz across the floor. What results is a painful parade of stepped-on feet, some stumbling and perhaps a torn dress. You end up on the other side of the ballroom, but what you have just done is far from the waltz. Enter your instructor. Using his or her experience they must describe to you first how to hold your body as the leader and then how to take her hand. Then they must describe where you put your feet and how to dance across the floor. Sometimes you will move your body and there will be unintended responses; you are hitting on moves that your partner knows and you do not, just by accident. Your mind is brimming full but you manage to do one or two of the four things your instructor is prompting. And the one of the two things you execute correctly the female dancer does not respond to because she is also confused at this point. And so you end the lesson having learned one piece of the huge puzzle. This is learning under the tutelage of a schoolmaster. With a green, or unschooled horse, you have a greater challenge because you have a mute who will not react. It takes a dedicated rider with much patience to teach themselves and the horse and without an instructor this task becomes monumental.

So what is my overall point in this rant? Horses live in the moment. They have no angst, they do not brood or sulk, not in the way that we humans have honed. This is not to say that horses do not get frustrated, or angry, or surly, but they are creatures that live in the ‘now’. Though you might go home and cry into your pillow after a bad ride I can assure you that your horse is not doing the same in his stall. Horses crave security, structure and carrots. They are extremely claustrophobic. They will constantly be checking in with the hierarchy in their herd of two (you and him). No horse dreams of greater things. No horse has ambitions. Now is what is important to them- the state of every single moment.

So stop placing meaning onto your horse that exists only in your head. If you care for your horse well, treat him with respect and when you make mistakes under saddle, acknowledge them, you are holding up your end of the bargain. His job is to allow you to dance with him until you grow out of your two left feet. The bulk of dressage riders are adult amateurs so if you did not own your horse, odds are it would be another woman (or man) in a very similar position as you, thinking the exact same thing. Stop looking at the top hats and tail, only thinking of being happy at FEI, and start to enjoy the process of learning how to dance. That growth of communication between horse and rider is what makes dressage so special, and why I have dedicated my life to the sport.

38 responses to “Adult Amateur Dressage Shame: The School Master

  1. that is SOOOOO funny that you compare riding with dancing..thats what I tell my students all day long!!!You can dance like a grizzlybear pulling your partners arms out and keep on stepping on her feets while NOT having the smallest idea of rhythm and swing…or you can dance like a latin salsaking..leading your partner with a minimum of effort,but clear and not missunderstandable! :)..and now guess who ll look forwart to dance with you again and who ll escape through the bathroomwindow!

  2. Disagree with your first rant about the type of person dressage attracts, but those last 3 paragraphs are very true. It is now the aiming high to wear top hat and tails, it is the journey and enjoyment.

  3. I don’t even attach the word ‘dressage’ to what i am attempting with my Tenn Walking Horse. But just these words describe so well my emotions and frustrations and yes, success at times… thank you for saying it so eloquently.

  4. Sorry, but I don’t agree that horses just “live in the moment”
    If an animal can get “frustrated, or angry, or surly”
    Or lonely, depressed and sad from the loss of a barn mate or even riding partner there is no doubt in my mind that they live fully. Just as fully and as consciously as we humans do.

    • Living in the now IS living fully. It doesn’t mean that the “now” is always sunshine and rainbows. Sometimes its angry or depressed. Her point is, Horses don’t stand around in thier stall all day beating themselves up because they tripped in the feild the night before.

      • I don’t think they were saying horses don’t live fully. You can hurt a horse and it is angry/scared/defensive NOW because you hurt it. Next time you see it it might be scared NOW in case you do it again NOW. They are not holding a grudge because you hurt them before. They are worried it will happen NOW.

        Same deal with losing a friend. They are sad the friend is not with them NOW. They are not sad the friend was not with them yesterday. They remember they had a friend, and they want their friend with them NOW.

    • I agree with you completely. I do ride dressage. I also run a rescue. Horses who’ve never loaded before, when they see the trailer to get out of their surroundings, they run to get in. When they arrive here, just like us in a new place, seek a friendly face or two to hang out with. The dullness inside becomes bright, they eventually talk, they eventually give a response back to our volunteers of pure gratitude. Back to my dressage horse, she whistles through her nose to talk to me, no one else. We are a team. she has bad days and good days, so do I. I respect her emotions for the day and it has nothing to do with cycles. The horse is just as sentient as we are.

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  9. interesting article and I love the analogy to dance. Not all of us are ” dressage ladies “. Some of us do understand the movements of the horses altho may not be able to elicit them so readily as we did when we were young. As you get older you will discover that your body does not answer to the helm as well as it did when you were younger. Yes I’ve stopped jumping but my interest in horses will never die. As I ascend up the levels I don’t know how far I want to go. Do I want to put my sensitive talented mare into a double bridle? Do I want her legs smacked with a whip so that she can learn passage? Do I want to put pressure on her legs and tendons over and over? I don’t know. Right now I’m just enjoying dancing. Dressage instructors are not all good either; it’s easy to get bad instruction so be careful with whom you clinic.

  10. This really resonated with me. Two yrs ago was lucky enough to purchase a PSG school master. By no means is it easy to go from Training/First level to 3rd and above! You can’t skip the basics and my horse is no “push-button” guy! I don’t have a good upper level dressage coach close by so must rely on infrequent coaching and much trial and error. It’s truly a process – a lovely, fun, exasperating, thought provoking, fabulous process! The article describes it well.

  11. This is a very good article, I am a 14 year old in this exact position of looking for a school master ect and though many may not agree with your generalisation of a dressage rider, I know that if I am truly honest with my self that sums me up totally. If you are in my position, I know that the right trainer, who will always be there for you and can look at the bigger picture and has done it all 100 times before is the key. My trainer uses many analogies for example she describes my school master that I work on as a super market that has all the food you would ever need but with no labels. I have a shopping list of things to get but know way of knowing which item to pick up. My dressage training is uncovering the labels in the supermarket. And I have to say for me analogies are how I learn they help me put complicated dressage and horse language into English that is easy for me to remember and I can understand.

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  15. What a great piece! And I totally agree with your descriptions and analogies. I am a dressage pro rider and trainer, and you are describing many of my clients 🙂
    One of my own trainers (Charles de Kunffy) has been heard to say on more than one occasion that ‘every rider is a masochist’, because every time you get onto a horse it is going to show up your inadequacies as a rider. That being said, it is also the challenge that makes even something as small as that perfect 20m circle you rode today a thing you can re-live with pleasure for days.
    I give the occasional lesson on my Grand Prix horse (out of show season) and I do warn my clients – he will do EXACTLY what they tell him to do, which is very rarely what they THINK they are telling him.
    Eye-opening and humbling, the experience is always treasured, even if only because they appreciate their own horse more for his lack of sophistication, which makes for a simpler ride!
    And I have trouble with getting people to believe how horses process thought – and live in the now. You are not alone….

  16. Funny to read this just after writing about how we get in the way of our own success and should be more like our horses, being in the moment, not working our selves up with thoughts!. On a more relevant note I, old lumpy middle aged amateur, recently had a ride on my GP Stallion (ridden and trained by someone else). As his normal rider and I have the same stirrup length I could not resort to the “short legs” defense yet there was clearly something I was doing wrong. “just put your leg back and he will pop into canter”. Trot. Big Trot. Bigger Trot Very Very BIG Trot. Oh well. Just laugh and go back to trail riding and dreaming about when he comes home one day and I can impress the local cow herd.

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  23. The learning rider doesn’t know what he doesn’t know.
    Shame, too, on the instructor who doesn’t know how to instruct the learning rider. They also don’t know what they don’t know.

  24. So very true and well said. The horse is always the victim. However, maybe some of the Shame Should be shared with the instructor. You know the one, it’s the one who cannot describe what it they are trying to teach you.

  25. “HAHA! YES, ENTER MY LAIR NEWEST VICTIM!, think the dressage gods.”

    This quote alone makes life worth living and dressage worth learning. XD

  26. Ouch,close to home.I feel awful about my riding,my instructor told me my riding was abusive,she refused to teach me.Ive come full circle and decided maybe dressage is abusive.Ill never get over the comment and the feeling that I wasn’t good enough.I love my horse and provide great care and large grassy fields.

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